bebravePart of healthy dating is you simply have to be vulnerable. Being vulnerable opens you up to the “what if” that God has for you. Dating requires bravery.

Along the way you may/will meet some coach

One of my coaching participants joined Meet Up on my recommendation. This is a good recommendation for many reasons.

A guy messaged her with a simple “Hi.” She was flattered as she should be. It does feel good to be randomly noticed.

Her response back was “Tell me more about yourself.” Safe question, right?

This was the response she got back:
feel free to ask me questions and I’ll give you the answer, do you mind answering my question’s and let me know what you think, I will take them one after the other, what do you do for a living? Is there anything special that you’re passionate about? I love swimming, taking walks down the park, observing nature, running and walking, I also love cooking and taking walks by the sea side, I’m passionate about a candle lit dinner with i and my partner holding hands together and sharing intimate things about each other. you have a favorite restaurant? Some like hot and spicy, others prefer comfort food. If you had to pick one type of food, what would you say is your favorite? I love American food and also Italian food and most times, I love to cook for myself. I love Mc Donald. I love comfort food. I’d love to talk to you more and see what develops. What do you think? Well my life has been filled with so many ups and downs.I want to find a woman, who wants a relationship based on “Truth, Real Love (not a Heart Breaker) I think Compassion, Friendship, Loyalty, and Honesty are the attributes that makes a good relationship.I want to be able to do anything to make the woman of my heart happy, because “I Love Her, not because she tells me to do Know what I mean? I want to feel Excited when we kiss,hug and hold hands while we are in public or our home…. I lost my dad when I was so young and it seems very difficult but I thank God that I’ve gotten over it even though I still miss him so much. I’m the only child of my parent. I would rather have someone to respect, care for, and love from my heart & soul, then money!! Yes, money is nice, but it can’t buy your real love. I just want it to be that anything we were to “own”, as “ours”, not “mine” or “yours”. Yes, I know that there are something that will be mine, and she’s, do you know what I mean? I want to be able to “spoil her” by opening the door for her, or carrying things for her, taking her shoes off when she’s back from somewhere for no special reason, but that I care for her. my late dad used to tell me that every man loves two women; one is the creation of his imagination, and the other is not yet born, you might have been hurt before, but i believe Just cos something good ends doesn’t mean something better won’t begin, i think love is blind but after experiencing it for a long time you should become familiar with some particular spots. I do travel outside of the States due to my work but i am going to take my retirement as soon as i am through with this last job, i am so happy that i will be able to spend the whole of my time with my woman. See, I don’t know everything about your past yet, and I don’t know what upsets you right now, but hope to know you better, so I don’t say or do anything to upset you, cos I hate that when I upset someone special to me. I love going out, taking walks down the park and thinking about my life, I love observing nature and cooking is also one of my hobbies. I love romantic movies. Can you tell me more about yourself? What do you really enjoy doing? What you do to have fun? What makes you laugh, smile, and cry? What kinds of music and movies do you like? Always remember that You can’t make someone love you, all you can do is be someone who can be loved, the rest is up to the person to realize your worth, cant wait to hear back from you.

Barf. She just got barfed on by this guy. How did one simple question lead to all of this?

Guys, don’t do this.

Guys, also please write sentences, check your spelling, and use capital letters and punctuation. Women want to believe you are educated.

Women, if you receive something like this from a guy, I don’t think he’s all that interested in you. I think you may be number 1,009 on a list of women he has searched on Meet Up. Feel appropriately grossed out and move on.

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About Be Brave

Brenda Seefeldt began life in youth ministry in 1981. That is before the internet, YouTube, texting and even before PowerPoint. (But it was after flannel boards.) Brenda has written and shared much of what she has learned through the resource of Wild Frontier and in many youth ministry publications as she continues on in youth ministry. Brenda is a brave one. She stutters yet is a national speaker. She loves teaching so much she’s also been a substitute teacher for over 20 years. She’s brave enough to enter any classroom at a middle school. She also simply loves teaching groups, whether they are teens or adults. Due to the many years of youth ministry, Brenda has “coached” many grown teens in dating. She finds herself very opinionated on that with lots to share. Brenda loves her God-given family–four sons and 4 grandchildren. They are God-given, not birthed. That alone is a brave story, one she tells here and there as the story really belongs to her sons.

One thought on “Barf

  1. I just googled “Well my life has been filled with so many ups and downs.I want to find a woman, who wants a relationship based on “Truth, Real Love (not a Heart Breaker)…” etc. It’s the same letter you posted above. I received it on August 19, 2015. More than barf, it’s a scam.

    It’s a classic example of too-much-too-soon, and the personal details don’t match up. Thanks for helping me check this out.

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