Raging to God–Teen Version

shoes3I know a teen. He could look like this.

lt. dan

He has reasons to rage against God. Legitimate reasons. Lots of them. Not-his-fault reasons. Yet he won’t.

I wish he would.

But to do so would open him up to all of his pain. Again, it is legitimate pain. He’d have to feel it. All of it. It would leave him raw. And vulnerable. This is a place he is afraid to go to.

So he numbs himself instead. His numbing choice: video games. All day long (some days literally all day) holed up in his room playing video games while the pain of his parents’ broken marriage plays out in other parts of the home.

It is a swirling and devastating hurricane wreaking havoc on this family and he is the youngest one. He’s rarely directly involved in the wreck of a marriage as he has removed himself from it all for so long. I wish he would stand in the midst of it and yell and scream at God. I wish he would put himself out there. He has a solid teen faith in God but not that deep connection of knowing that God can handle the rage of his parents’ failed marriage and the rage of his disappointment and fears. But he keeps his faith “safe” and numbs himself with hours and hours of video games.

As Lieutenant Dan found out, the peace finally comes. (Yes, I know Lieutenant Dan is a fictional character. Forest Gump is a real person, different name, whom my husband had dinner with.) It was when Lieutenant Dan made himself painfully vulnerable that he was able to embrace the truth and found himself changed.

This teen could use this. This fabulous truth of a daring relationship with God is eluding him. He can’t receive it when he is choosing to numb himself instead.

I wish he would live so daring. He’s a great teen. To release this pain, to throw it violently back at God, to be this vulnerable is frightful. Painful. Exposing. So far he’s not brave enough. Or he’s too comfortable in the world he has created in his bedroom.

“But even in darkness I cannot hide from you.” Psalm 139:12

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Brenda Seefeldt began life in youth ministry in 1981. That is before the internet, YouTube, texting and even before PowerPoint. (But it was after flannel boards.) Brenda has written and shared much of what she has learned through the resource of Wild Frontier and in many youth ministry publications as she continues on in youth ministry. Brenda is a brave one. She stutters yet is a national speaker. She loves teaching so much she’s also been a substitute teacher for over 20 years. She’s brave enough to enter any classroom at a middle school. She also simply loves teaching groups, whether they are teens or adults. Due to the many years of youth ministry, Brenda has “coached” many grown teens in dating. She finds herself very opinionated on that with lots to share. Brenda loves her God-given family–four sons and 4 grandchildren. They are God-given, not birthed. That alone is a brave story, one she tells here and there as the story really belongs to her sons.

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