The Art of Self-Love: 31 Ideas

crazywriterLearning to love oneself is so empowering. Freeing. Imagine feeling at peace with the person you naturally are, embracing your imperfections and letting go of the need for flawlessness. Here are some ideas I’ve come up with that have helped me (or could theoretically help me) love myself. Maybe you’ll like some of them.

    1. Meditate. Create a happy space in your mind. It can be a real place or imaginary–anything goes. When you’re feeling upset or negative, go there and take deep breaths. Imagine breathing in happiness, peace, and joy. Associate a color with it. Feel it wash over you.
    2. Take a shower. Reflect on life in a positive light. Close your eyes and feel the water and the soap.
    3. Read. Lose yourself in a wonderful book. I prefer non-violent, non-horror material, but whatever floats your boat.

  • Listen to calming music. Imagine letting go of every care you have. Copy and paste this link, it’s my favorite track:
  • Surround yourself with positive influences. Unfollow discouraging accounts on social media. Stay away from negativity on the Internet. Be with people who encourage you to be your best.
  • Write a letter to your past self. Make peace with her. Forgive her for what she’s done. Tell her jokes and encourage her.
  • Cuddle. Hug yourself. Hug someone else. Hug inanimate objects.
  • Go for a walk or run. Especially when I’m stressed, running helps me loosen up. Notice your surroundings.
  • Cry. Crying is not a bad thing. It can be very good when it’s done appropriately. Let yourself feel.
  • Get dressed in the morning. Clean yourself up. Take care of your hygiene. It’s so much easier to feel good when you’re not greasy and lounging around in pajamas.
  • Paint. It doesn’t have to be good. Just let the colors flow.
  • Shave. If you’re one who shaves, do it. It’s almost impossible for me to feel bad about myself when I have baby dolphin legs.
  • Find synonyms for positive words. I like the best. Start with a word like glorious, and write out all the synonyms you find appealing. At the top of the page, write your name. You’re all of those things.
  • Light a scented candle. Enjoy the scents. You are wonderful.
  • Be proud of your flaws. For example, I’m a horrible cook, and I’m proud of that. I would never want to be good at it. Having the ability to laugh at yourself is very valuable.
  • Dress up for no reason.
  • Take yourself out on a date. Look nice and go to a good restaurant by yourself. Have conversations with your mind. It can be quite freeing.
  • Do something spontaneous. Get in the car and go anywhere. Try something new.
  • Do something you’re good at. Whatever it is, we all have talents.
  • Get off the Internet for awhile. It’s easy to caught up in comparisons, especially with social media. Let it go for a day.
  • Love a friend. Don’t talk about your problems. Just listen to the friend. Make him or her feel wonderful. Loving someone else makes you feel good, too.
  • Do what you loved to do as a kid. Did you play dress-up? I certainly did.
  • Journal. Feel your feelings. Describe them. Pour yourself out.
  • Cook a delicious meal. Obviously, this isn’t the choice for me, but for all the cooks out there…
  • Write a list of what makes you unique. Keep it positive.
  • Watch a comedy. Laugh. Lighten up your mood.
  • Take a nap. Sometimes all we need is a little sleep. Just make sure it doesn’t turn into an apathetic, slug sort of nap. Think of peaceful things as you drift off.
  • Ask others for stories of inspiration. We’ve all seen and been through a lot. Connect with someone and share hope.
  • Every time you think something negative about yourself, write it down and rip up the paper. Then write exactly the opposite. Sometimes saying the truth aloud helps, too.
  • Treat yourself like you’d treat a dear friend.
  • You don’t always have to like yourself, but you should always strive to love yourself. Unconditionally.


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I’m Abigail, a wildly emotional teenage blogger-empress. Sometimes I blog about my copious feelings. Sometimes–a lot, actually–I blog about my past. Sometimes it’s random and unexpected–romantic thoughts passing by, an odd dream I had, and so on. Oh yes, and I have a lot of opinions. Chances are you’ll disagree with at least one of them. I started blogging in April 2013, a little before my fourteenth birthday. Since then, I’ve published many posts–some groundbreaking and ingenious, some embarrassingly dismal. No matter their quality, however, they all play some sort of a part in my life story. If you’re in a stalking mood, read how my attitude changes from good to bad and back to better again. It’s all me. This is the mind of the odd, imaginative girl you see in the hallways, the cafeteria, and in classes. This is the heart of a human battlefield turned into a wonderful, scar-littered garden of hopes and dreams. Welcome to the two (or three, or four) sides of me–the daunting and the rash, the apprehensive and the careful.

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